Grief is a very personal thing; but when someone loses someone they care about – whether it’s a resident, family member, friend, or even a pet – it can be very painful for them. But you can help:
- If you and your colleague are acquaintances, keep your condolences simple. Send them an email or put a card on their desk. Let them know you’re there for them; but keep a respectful distance.
- If you’re close to your colleague, be there without making it about you. Be present and listen. Express your desire to help without making them feel like they are obligated to reply.
- If you’re a manager, let the person who is grieving know how the company can/will support them, what resources are available, and what time off (if any) they are entitled to.
- If someone is grieving the loss of a pet, resist the urge to say something like “It’s only a dog.” Realize that loss means different things to different people.
- Help if you can. If a grieving person asks you to lunch or to go for a walk, think before you say no. Such a small gesture can mean a lot. If you can’t accommodate them, suggest an alternative – maybe a short walk or a cup of coffee. Realize they are reaching out and may just need some companionship and kindness.
